I must agree i’ve been hearing more and more in the last few years about husbands cheating on their wifes or vice versa, but this trend is not just growing among married couples, but even among young non-committed couples. Ethics and virtues are on the low these days.
While there are no available statistics on adultery, most people, whether experts or Lebanese people in general agree the phenomenon has evolved. Now, both men and women cheat. According to Seropian, “The trend is certainly more common in the middle to upper class, especially in environments where the female has money. It comes with their liberalization. Women are less tolerant of mistreatment, increasingly aware of their desire to be fulfilled and likely to search for satisfaction if they don’t feel it.†[Full Article]
I think it is a sign of immaturity from those who cheat! There is no need for cheating especially when people can enter open relationships, people need to grow up discuss those issues. One more thing is that Lebanese society can perceive something as cheating but is not(what if the married couple agreed on an open relationship).
** As for the writer of the quoted article, i am a bit surprised by the part where she claims somebody said to her dad in front of her (I though you were with your mistress but than i realized it is your daughter) wait! what? was the friend pulling a joke! will the friend as the same question is her mom was with her son (if the writer has a brother)
Devin,
I asked myself the same question about that friend’s question. What sort of joke is that?
Actually it’s not a “Lebanese” thing, it’s quite international!
Just few weeks ago, I got hit by a “very conservative” American from Alabama n I “discovered” recently that he was married with 2 kids!
And of course I got THE famous speech of any cheating husband: “we got married when we were very young n then we grew apart with the years n it’s only because of the kids we’re still together!”
Boy how many times I heard this speech!
In case u were wondering well I asked my Gringo to hit the road!
Michelle
the article did not say it’s a Lebanese thing it said we just caught up with this trend 🙂
C’est tout ce que t’as trouvé à dire ya Nagib?
Well what else do u want me to comment on? That you still got it :p
Michelle,
You seem to have lost the gist of the story in translation somehow. Infidelity is as old as the stone age; however; the point of the article is that Lebanese “upper class” (I guess it means rich) are flaunting this infidelity as a badge of honor! Even in your Alabama gentleman caller’s neighborhood it is frowned upon.
There is no sanctity; shame or honor left in Lebanon; that’s what I understood.
There is no sanctity, shame, or honor left in the world! I think as time passes, less and less people will be getting married in favor of having “open/casual relationships.”